Best Days

Wasn't planning to post anything this month until one of my friends messaged me this.
Prompted me to post.

A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person let.
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"
Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you, I was blind!"
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"
The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"
The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease."
The teacher lamented, "The answer is right."
The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness. At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone."
The story is finished, the class was silent.
The teacher knows that the students have understood the moral of the story,  that of the good and evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.
Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.
Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.
Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.
Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you anything but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart. One day all of us will get separated from each other, we will miss our conversations of everything and nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare... One day our children will see our pictures and ask 'Who are these people?' And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say : 'It was them that I had the best days of my life with.'

Taught me so much.

4: 55 PM (GMT +3)
31st December 2015
Bahrah, Saudi Arabia

Little Things ♡

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

-          Robert Brault

Little things mean a lot, but sometimes the smallest and the strangest of them can make your day. These little things, be they gestures, actions or words, are the many small things we do every day and that naturally expresses our heart.

They are not the result of calculations or intentions, but are rather spontaneous expression of what we exactly feel. Continued happiness does not come from occasional grand events or achievements, but from little things that fill our daily lives. There are so many of them that you would never realize till it’s late or you are made to remember.

Small doses of happiness.

·         The first time your feet slides effortlessly into new pair of socks.

·         When you wake up just few seconds before the alarm and you silence the beastly bell.

Hell Yeah!

·         When you just look at your friend and she understands what you exactly feel.

·         When someone buys something for you as well when they get for themselves.

           Coffee? Chocolates? Umm.

·         When you move around an area for someone to notice you or talk to you and that person does it.

           Yippieee!

·         When you wake up early in the morning for college or work and realize its Sunday!

·         When people respect your privacy and give you space when you badly need it.

·         Someone remembers everything you said that day and you thought they weren’t listening to you.

           How’s Regina? Is she fine after all the depressing events?

           (Aww. You were actually listening?)

·         Or someone remembers a random moment from the time you’ve spent with them.

           Remember the time when we used to send satirical messages to each other just to keep talking?

          (Gosh. I almost forgot about that. You remember all that?)

Some doses of positive illusions are valuable for long term love and happiness. Small manifestations of our love like linking arms when crossing the street or sending the warmth of a secret smile are natural and spontaneous actions that genuinely reflect more than any expensive gift or grand event. Those are few of ‘em that make my day.

Temme about the lil things that make your day.

Worth Reading

I saw this post on The Logical Indian's Page on Facebook. Couldn't stop myself from sharing it here.
This is beautiful. Masha Allah. :')

"I got married when I was 21 years old, but I knew my husband since the 2nd grade. Literally, we've fought with each other about everything - from the swings when we were young to copying homework when we were older. He used to have a Royal Enfield, so eventually we could skip college and go for long drives to Khandala. Even after we were married, I used to complain that he never wrote me any love letters and he would blame it on his bad handwriting and just laugh at me. Most of the times, I would say - 'am I talking to the wall you stupid fellow?' and he would continue laughing...till finally even I would laugh with him!"
"Did you ever think of remarrying?"
"I don't know if you'll understand this, but when you love someone with such a genuine heart you cannot look beyond that person - even after death. I don't know about your generation but for me, love cannot happen more than once and I've had mine. Cancer took him away at a young age of 32, but all my happiest memories are in those 10 years with him. He passed away in 1975 but till today from the time I wake up to the time I sleep - every step of the day I miss him with all my heart."

Via - Humans of Bombay

Perfect though fragmentary.

'You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.' ~ John Wooden

Beautiful people enter our life through beautiful experiences. Those experiences which have faced hard times. 

Two years back a beautiful girl entered my life. A charming girl, with all her charm in her smile. Her smile was influential. She is practical and modest. This was the day she was born '3rd October.' A day to cherish and celebrate the sixteen years of my beautiful friend. Never did I know this person would become an important element of my life. 

Those memories we shared together can never fade. As bright as it could be till the end of our lives. Even though I never expressed how much you mean to me, you really mean the world to me. :’) I love you dear.

Thank you God for giving me a priceless friend.

The empty feeling.

The feeling of emptiness is like emotional hunger where you are hungry for something you can't have or get. Depression is one of the strongest reason that can make you feel empty and the combination of both depression and emptiness can be really annoying. You need to figure out your unsatisfied need that is causing this feeling to overcome it. As everyone's unique, each person has a different reason for his / her empty feeling. Most of the people who have the empty feeling inside them have a self understanding problem. Like, if you know that you failed to reach your goal then you would say you are disappointed not empty. In other words, people use this word emptiness to describe a feeling they can't understand. So, gaining self understanding is the most important step in dealing with emptiness and all unwanted emotions. 
You can gain self respect by adhering your values, be brave, never escape and by keeping promises. Keeping promises: Not only the promise you give to others, but also the promises that you give to yourself.

I show not your face but your heart's desire. Erised stra ehru oyt ube eafru oyt on wohsi.

- Mirror of Erised

Can't take it anymore.

There are always going to be some bad times. Times when you feel like there’s no one who can help you and you’re convinced that there’s no hope too. I know how bad it feels when things go out of your control and when you can’t take it anymore. Such emotions result in a bad feeling that many of you can’t tolerate.

Next time when you have this 'I can't take it anymore' moment ask yourself this question, 

Why is my mind constantly sending these bad signals? Why can’t it just suppress them?

It can’t, cos that’s your mind’s way of asking you to take action. Emotions are signals sent by your mind asking you to take action. When your mind finds that you are doing something that you absolutely hate, it sends you these 'bad feeling' signals hoping that you would respond by taking some action. But, most of the people do nothing and as a result their mind finds no other solution but to make the 'bad feelings' more intense until they reach a point where they can't take it anymore. Doing something that you hate for years are actions that tell us, how our society taught us to accept sufferings and stop responding to our inner feelings even if we feel bad.

You don't have to take any hasty decisions like suddenly quitting your job or ending your relationship with someone, you just have to think of a long term plan that can help you to change the situation you can't take anymore. 

Don't ignore the signals sent by your mind because the others are ignoring theirs. When you know that everyone is suffering because of their own choice, you should make a choice whether you want to join them or you want to be different. If you wanna stop suffering, you need to take an action. Sufferings will stop when you take an action and not by waiting. Waiting will only make you get depressed.

So, it's up to you! What do you want? Suffer like the others? or a change?

I show not your face but your heart's desire. Erised stra ehru oyt ube eafru oyt on wohsi.

- Mirror of Erised

Loving yourself.

"Love yourself, for if you don't, how can you expect anybody else to love you?" ~ Susan Lipsett

We need to love ourselves before loving others. If you wanna experience true intimacy, you need to be taught how to love yourself first.
As much as we want to control our own destiny, the humbling truth is that sometimes the only way to learn self-love is by being loved precisely in the places where we feel most unsure and most tender. When this happens, we feel free to love others in a deeper way. Positive self-talk cannot replicate this, it is a gift of intimacy and not of will power.
Self-esteem and self-love are issues that are often related together. If you suffer from low esteem, it is possible that the root cause is a case of insufficient self-love. And so you find it difficult, to find that little bit of love for yourself. I know, it will make you feel unnatural at the start cos your mind has been ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for a long time.
When you don't love yourself, you're basically telling the others that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes.
Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you don't love yourself and suffer from low self-esteem, it is almost impossible to reach the potential that you really have. 

Few things you can do to love yourself:

01. Eliminate self criticism.
02. Trust yourself or never lie to yourself.
03. Forgive yourself.
04. Learn to be kind.
05. Think positive.
06. Boost your self confidence.
07. Look after your body.
08. Express gratitude.
09. Have fun.
10. Relax 

I show not your face but your heart's desire. Erised stra ehru oyt ube eafru oyt on wohsi.

- Mirror of Erised